How to Deal With Wedding Anxiety

Getting anxious is very understandable given the strain and stress of organizing the wedding and the imminent loss of your single status. Wedding anxiety almost seems to be a taboo subject, especially with the happy couple, but given the debilitating affect that it can have it is vital that you know how to deal with wedding anxiety.

Up until this point you and your partner have been I suppose private individuals, you had the relationship but you could have easily moved on if things had not worked out. Once you get married you will two separate individuals with your own lives, ideas and emotions but you will also be a couple. As a couple you can no longer look at what is best for me, it has to be what is best for us. You will tied together in union and that can be a scary thought.

The there is the wedding itself. Who are you organizing it for, is it for friends and family or is it for yourselves when you celebrate your union. Are you blessed with (well meaning?) interfering relatives who have their own ideas of how things should be done, which could well be the opposite of what you would like. Is the expense of the big day bothering you, are you spending too much, will this leave significant debt hanging over you. Are you worried about things going wrong, about each others families kicking of? What should be a happy time can be a very stressful time.

Your wedding day belongs to you and your partner and no one else. This is where you commit to each other for the rest of your lives, and everyone else is there to celebrate your happiness. As it is your wedding day the you guys decide what happens! Before you begin planning decide on how much you can spend and what size of wedding that you both want. Create a day that says this is us, that reflects who you are and gives real meaning to the event. What you do not want is a wedding where the driving force is the overwhelming need to impress, who cares what anyone else thinks or wants, this is about you. How to deal with wedding anxiety is by taking control.

You do not have to do everything yourselves, the world will not come to an end if you can bring people in to help you. Whether friends and family or professional organisers you need people to help take the pressure of you. One of the big dangers of this time is that you can get so caught up in the organization that it becomes way to easy to sideline the relationship. You can end up with one partner snowed under trying to organize things and one partner feeling sidelined, ignored and surplus to requirements. No matter how busy things get you have to make time for the two of you. Get away from the organization for an evening (or go wild and escape for a weekend), you need time to reconnect, time to remind yourself why you are doing all this and time to just enjoy each others company. This is also a good time to talk about your feelings and how everything is affecting you, the odds are that your partner is probably feeling just the same.

If you are really having serious anxiety problems then you need to examine your reasons for getting married. Go through everything and if it is more than just nerves you need to talk things through with your partner. It might be that you might decide that getting married now is just not a good idea. If that is the case then it is better that you decide now than finding out a few months down the line that you made the wrong move. It could be that your partner agrees that a bit more time would be good so instead of happily married you could be happily unmarried. The important thing is that you are happy and that you are doing what you want.

A major source of concern can be if something goes wrong on the day. What happens is what happens and there is nothing that you can do to change it. It is a given that there will always be something that does not go according to plan so smile, take it in your stride, adapt to any changes, it is not worth worrying about. The most important thing is that you marry your partner, celebrating that fact with your loved ones is a secondary concern. If everyone interferes to much in how your day should be organized, you could always elope.

So, how to take control of wedding anxiety is to take control of the day and make it your day. Your wedding is the first day of the rest of your life, it is perfectly natural to feel anxious about this new life that you are starting but you will be with the person that you love, it does not get much better than that. Do not forget to take time out and just chill out with your partner, talk about how you feel and your plans for the future. Once you are married you need to be able to share needs and emotions with each other, so talk and share how you feel. You will find that talking about them makes you feelings less intense and intrusive. Decide on the wedding that you both want and stick to that and if there is to much work then let people help you. This time should be a really happy time so do not let anxiety spoil it for you. Be confident, be positive and when the big day comes I hope that you both have a truly marvelous time.

Being a student of life I thought it about time to get my ideas down in the hope that they will help people with whatever difficulties they are facing. If you want to read further help and guidance in dealing with relationship problems then my site might be able to help. Whatever your situation I wish you luck. http://www.reviewthemagicofmakingup.com

by Michael Finlayson -

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